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In reply to the discussion: Just ripped a co-worker. Now I feel terrible. [View all]lapislzi
(5,762 posts)My colleague is a domestic violence survivor. She escaped from a horrific relationship with a man who would doubtless have killed her had she stayed. She is a strong woman and I admire her for that.
But sometimes people forget that they didn't get out of those situations all by themselves ("you didn't build that." Yes, she had to make the decision and do the heavy lifting. But many people along the way (myself included, who pulled her aside one morning and said "you don't get that kind of eye damage from falling out of bed. You're not fooling anyone" helped make that decision and its subsequent actions possible. There's a lot that goes into a successful escape from an abusive relationship.
I am so sorry for your terrible experience. All I can offer is virtual love and virtual hug: