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(115,677 posts)I was raise to wait for the guy to make the first move, to ask yiu out, but came to realize that it was ok for me to do it also as this gave me the ability to chose for myself, rather than wait for someone else to chose for me. This came after my first marriage divorce which happened because I was asked and "needed" to be grateful someone asked and say yes.
If I am interested enough to get together with someone, male or female (hetero here) , I just ask. It gives the impression I would like to get to know them better and/or like spending time withthem. Bothe of which are a good impression.
Of course getting a number or going out did not mean sex was necessary but again, only if we both wanted to. An ex-boyfriend told me I'd better be prepared because agreeing to a movie or dinner meant obligatory sex. I laughed and told him no, it'd cost more than that to get laid.