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ChiciB1

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42. As A Person Who Watches My Weight Every Single
Fri Jan 10, 2014, 05:08 PM
Jan 2014

day, I have to admit that I have 4 sisters who are more than over weight. They "say" they feel fine, they're not concerned all that much, but I don't believe it for one minute!

I have OCD and weight control is ONE POSITIVE thing that came with it. The other stuff, not so much. Still, I know I worry about my sisters all the time even though they say I'm anorexic. I'm so NOT anorexic, 5' 3 1/2" and 121 lbs is not underweight. At my age (67) my Dr., says "don't gain any more" and doesn't care if I drop 5 lbs.

I don't talk to them about their weight for fear of hurting their feelings, but I can tell they really aren't all that happy. One of them keeps putting off going to her doctor because she says he will tell her to at least try to drop 8 lbs a month. I HAVE to make myself exercise and do my stretches and there are so many days I just don't want to. I have to thank my 2 chocolate labs who give me "that look" and I know what it means.

I get on my husband because he never walks them, but it does "make" me do at least that much each day. For someone who carries extra weight I can only imagine what kind of incentive it must take to start an exercise program and stick with it.

I APPLAUD anyone who can follow through and lose great amounts of weight. I don't think I could even do it. So kudos to you for what you completed, I'm sure it was really tough.

And, I also understand what you say about people saying you're tiny and how it doesn't resonate that well. I hear it too, but that DOES not mean I give myself any slack and let myself go. I have to work at it too, every single day.

I used to be fat [View all] MissMillie Jan 2014 OP
Thank you for this post. QC Jan 2014 #1
This message was self-deleted by its author phasma ex machina Jan 2014 #60
A good reminder... Mike Nelson Jan 2014 #2
We should never be defined by what we weigh. PassingFair Jan 2014 #3
great post. mahina Jan 2014 #4
surgery MissMillie Jan 2014 #5
Thank you for mentioning the potential side effects of gastric bypass Gormy Cuss Jan 2014 #11
an ethical bariatric surgery program MissMillie Jan 2014 #13
They will not operate on anyone over 63 classykaren Jan 2014 #77
That's not true. I have an acquaintance who was 66 at the time of her surgery and she did very well auntAgonist Jan 2014 #86
Just curious....cause I know next to nothing about gastric bypass surgery beaglelover Jan 2014 #107
Thank you. Catherine Vincent Jan 2014 #6
Thank you for posting BlueState Jan 2014 #7
Absolutely true... regnaD kciN Jan 2014 #72
Also true. BlueMTexpat Jan 2014 #79
they got mocked for their appearance, though. BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2014 #96
Thank you! redqueen Jan 2014 #8
Most people outgrow jokes based upon physical features Live and Learn Jan 2014 #9
This is excellent! Le Taz Hot Jan 2014 #10
Your MIND is the essence of who you are HockeyMom Jan 2014 #12
knr Douglas Carpenter Jan 2014 #14
thank you Marrah_G Jan 2014 #15
Miss Millie Dorian Gray Jan 2014 #16
Thank you so much for your eloquent "vent" chervilant Jan 2014 #17
Your last sentence is the best one on here. Thank You classykaren Jan 2014 #78
+1 catrose Jan 2014 #90
Oh boy, my dear MissMillie... CaliforniaPeggy Jan 2014 #18
First off, BRAVO for your weight loss! AAO Jan 2014 #19
I absolutely empathize with you...I was a fat kid angstlessk Jan 2014 #20
You Rock it, MissMillie Tuesday Afternoon Jan 2014 #21
I've been fat and thin wryter2000 Jan 2014 #22
MissMillie, good post. I myself have lost 124 pounds and for the first time in years roguevalley Jan 2014 #23
Thank you. I am tired of seeing hatred and bigorty defended here at DU. nt Demo_Chris Jan 2014 #24
Vent away Beaverhausen Jan 2014 #25
hello friend! MissMillie Jan 2014 #26
Well done! Can I ask you something honestly? Barack_America Jan 2014 #27
Well, as I said in an earlier reply MissMillie Jan 2014 #30
Thank you very much - great post. klook Jan 2014 #28
We are above criticism for physical appearance. That's a Rush behavior. Sienna86 Jan 2014 #29
i like being fat FatBuddy Jan 2014 #31
to each his/her own MissMillie Jan 2014 #33
i made a major breakthrough FatBuddy Jan 2014 #37
But sometimes pipi_k Jan 2014 #82
you have love to yourself FatBuddy Jan 2014 #84
I've lost 40 pounds since January of 2013. closeupready Jan 2014 #32
Very nicely put. Bravo to you. Shrike47 Jan 2014 #34
Thank you, MissMillie tom_kelly Jan 2014 #35
No one asked you out? KamaAina Jan 2014 #36
Love this post Grateful for Hope Jan 2014 #88
Thank you! Matariki Jan 2014 #38
Thank you for speaking out. KitSileya Jan 2014 #39
Oh, wow, i can relate to your post laundry_queen Jan 2014 #44
You speak for a whole lot of us, Miss Millie nolabear Jan 2014 #40
Thanks for this! n/t PasadenaTrudy Jan 2014 #41
As A Person Who Watches My Weight Every Single ChiciB1 Jan 2014 #42
Good post. laundry_queen Jan 2014 #43
This is an excellent post Grateful for Hope Jan 2014 #91
Wow. sounds like you went through a lot. laundry_queen Jan 2014 #98
I also had abuse from my dad Grateful for Hope Jan 2014 #99
I'm so sorry to hear that laundry_queen Jan 2014 #101
Thanks for validating my thoughts, laundry_queen Grateful for Hope Jan 2014 #102
thanks, laundry_queen Grateful for Hope Jan 2014 #108
Great post, thank you! :). nt arthritisR_US Jan 2014 #45
thx for sharing your story Liberal_in_LA Jan 2014 #46
Thank you for your post. nt. NCTraveler Jan 2014 #47
thank you Miss Millie Skittles Jan 2014 #48
The only reason I felt it could have been an issue was the "too much is never enough" implied.... Spitfire of ATJ Jan 2014 #49
This was not a school day for me noamnety Jan 2014 #50
It's never as simple as "getting a sense of humor" when you're a consistent target of ridicule. nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #110
I was there too, MissMillie.. annabanana Jan 2014 #51
I hear you - TBF Jan 2014 #52
Congrats on the weight loss... awoke_in_2003 Jan 2014 #53
If republicans mocked JFK for his back-brace and constant diarrhea, DU would be furious. arcane1 Jan 2014 #54
I thank you so dearly. KentuckyWoman Jan 2014 #55
My favorite post of the day mokawanis Jan 2014 #56
Exctly nadinbrzezinski Jan 2014 #57
Congrats on your weight loss...My sister was close to 400lbs HipChick Jan 2014 #58
I used to be fat too. Vashta Nerada Jan 2014 #59
For somebody who loves science I love that statement nadinbrzezinski Jan 2014 #61
My excuse was that I was too damn lazy. Vashta Nerada Jan 2014 #62
Once again, it is not a moral failing. nadinbrzezinski Jan 2014 #65
Congrats on your efforts BuddhaGirl Jan 2014 #95
i think there is a huge difference between 35 lbs overweight La Lioness Priyanka Jan 2014 #64
According to the BMI Vashta Nerada Jan 2014 #66
Also between reducing for six months wickerwoman Jan 2014 #73
So if we just shame and ridicule every obese person enough, they'll all lose weight... nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #111
Yeah. Vashta Nerada Jan 2014 #112
If it's someone close to you whose weight you're concerned about, then that's one thing. nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #113
Anyone who's in the public eye... Vashta Nerada Jan 2014 #114
I understand that argument, but it's too similar to those who try to rationalize, for instance, nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #115
I hope everyone reads your moving post BainsBane Jan 2014 #63
K&R! DeSwiss Jan 2014 #67
Thank you for this post. NYC_SKP Jan 2014 #68
I've lost 85 lbs. I mostly agree with you, with just a little qualification. Silent3 Jan 2014 #69
Well said! Thank you for telling your story. liberal_at_heart Jan 2014 #70
Thank you for sharing. Sadly, people are superficial. merrily Jan 2014 #71
Thank you! a la izquierda Jan 2014 #74
Post removed Post removed Jan 2014 #75
Very well said ... 1StrongBlackMan Jan 2014 #76
Damn straight. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #80
The same is true for people who bully, drink too much, make stupid choices, or go into politics Android3.14 Jan 2014 #81
What do you mean "You have no authority or experience that gives you the right..." auntAgonist Jan 2014 #89
No. Android3.14 Jan 2014 #100
This is such an excellent post Grateful for Hope Jan 2014 #83
Congratulations and thank you for your story. That said, BMI is flawed (not b/c muscle) MillennialDem Jan 2014 #85
Waist size matters too TexasBushwhacker Jan 2014 #94
Yes it is expressed as a range, but it it is still fundamentally flawed for height/weight squared! MillennialDem Jan 2014 #97
Those who are uncomfortable in their own skin (even if it's not readily apparent) are the ones auntAgonist Jan 2014 #87
Late night comedians haven't got the message. B Calm Jan 2014 #92
An old proverb packman Jan 2014 #93
I used to be thin Warpy Jan 2014 #103
As a person with asthma, Jamaal510 Jan 2014 #104
I'm sure those who risk their very life on surgery to get control over their eating would liberal_at_heart Jan 2014 #105
Morbid obesity is increasingly seen not as a moral failing nadinbrzezinski Jan 2014 #109
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2014 #106
Good for you Ms. Millie burfman Feb 2014 #116
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