Man poses as woman on online dating site: barely survives 2 hours

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145. Turn off IM and use site's "email" messaging

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OKC allows instant messaging (IM) which sounds like where a lot of his trouble began. (Though certainly not all of it.) Second, the OKC account settings can filter out much of the "junk". Allow contact only from those who have posted a picture, who have answered some minimum number of questions and who have been members for at least a dew weeks.

I'm an older guy who has dated using several sites. OKC is an edgier site than some, how much varies by geography and age groups. It also has fairly large subgroups of polyamory and open relationships, some BDSM and fetish.

None of that excuses the kind of behavior experienced by many women on OKC. OKC is now owned by the same group that owns Match.com and Chemistry.com. Chemistry is the most restricted and structured; it doesn't have a search type feature.

Women have a lot more problems on all these types of sites than do men, and the types of abuses vary. Mostly what I encounter are the scam artists (half my age, looking for generous older men, ...), but see a surprising number of crotch shots, light bondage, lingerie, full nudity, etc. Thus supposedly among the 50+ group. More so in OKC, but 50 Shades brought out a bunch of D/s even on Match.