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147. It's not the subculture

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Wed Jan 15, 2014, 04:35 AM

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Man poses as woman on online dating site: barely survives 2 hours [View all] bullwinkle428 Jan 2014 OP

Wow Xipe Totec Jan 2014 #1

Did you read the article? redqueen Jan 2014 #13

I did, but didn't notice an answer to the question muriel_volestrangler Jan 2014 #16

Yes I did read it. Fully. Did I say anything that led you to believe I didn't? Xipe Totec Jan 2014 #40

Yes. The guy was innundated. He could barely keep up. redqueen Jan 2014 #48

He was inundated by repeated messages from the same guys Xipe Totec Jan 2014 #52

If you do that, you'll just spend all your time blocking everyone Recursion Jan 2014 #131

What's your solution? nt Xipe Totec Jan 2014 #164

Don't use free dating sites Recursion Jan 2014 #166

Doesn't matter if you have a function like that. KitSileya Jan 2014 #18

That's true; there are too many creeps. Xipe Totec Jan 2014 #43

yep, only talk to paid members, must have pics and profile, certs and positive feedback loli phabay Jan 2014 #76

Good advice regardless of gender. Xipe Totec Jan 2014 #87

also i would be willing to bet he went into the subforums on the site looking for this stuff loli phabay Jan 2014 #154

Friends who do online dating tell me Warpy Jan 2014 #35

My son did online dating Xipe Totec Jan 2014 #45

Awww... how sweet Recursion Jan 2014 #128

By your own reply above, the problem is selecting the right sites. Xipe Totec Jan 2014 #167

One of our daughters tried an online dating site and was inundated with pictures phylny Jan 2014 #2

why do guys think we want to see pictures of their junk? Skittles Jan 2014 #27

But my junk is pretty impressive. dawg Jan 2014 #51

Damn thats huge Katashi_itto Jan 2014 #55

SCHEDULING DAWG FOR ASS KICKING Skittles Jan 2014 #68

Runs. Hides. dawg Jan 2014 #73

Win. blackspade Jan 2014 #109

Asian girls are always impressed by my junk Nevernose Jan 2014 #113

Damn. That's some impressive junk (nt) Recursion Jan 2014 #133

Your junk Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #140

Since no one dates them, they're always out there trolling stevenleser Jan 2014 #75

Where are those proud Anthony Wiener supporters? Trajan Jan 2014 #96

aw I remember Skittles Jan 2014 #112

I've tried "the tuck", but it hurts when I walk, and it makes me walk funny. cherokeeprogressive Jan 2014 #110

Seriously Dorian Gray Jan 2014 #150

Because we're Big Dummies Warren DeMontague Jan 2014 #175

LOL Skittles Jan 2014 #176

Somewhere out there in the Aether there is a Redd Foxx comedy tape called "Video in a plain brown Warren DeMontague Jan 2014 #177

aw I bet Skittles Jan 2014 #178

Yep. Every woman I know who has tried online dating, without exception, Butterbean Jan 2014 #53

When my soon-to-be 24 year old son was about 12... 3catwoman3 Jan 2014 #81

Chortle.... blackspade Jan 2014 #108

Oh dear, LOL. Bless him for asking. n/t Butterbean Jan 2014 #153

Why do guys think that women they don't even know want to see their penis? Beacool Jan 2014 #105

No, the discomfort it causes is part of the turn on for some Recursion Jan 2014 #129

I guess so. Beacool Jan 2014 #142

I'm interested to know if he went to a free or subscription site Blue_Tires Jan 2014 #3

As a man interested in women, I've spent plenty of time at both free bullwinkle428 Jan 2014 #7

But it also has to be said Blue_Tires Jan 2014 #29

Used to do a great dealing JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #33

Well ... 1StrongBlackMan Jan 2014 #41

I had almost no interactions hfojvt Jan 2014 #103

being in demand is better but still a pain as you have to wade through lots of stuff loli phabay Jan 2014 #155

The comments mention OKCupid...a known black hole of creepy human degradation. Xithras Jan 2014 #25

Figures Blue_Tires Jan 2014 #31

rules to follow are, no pics or profile block, free members block, look for members with certs or loli phabay Jan 2014 #71

Yeah, because the problem described in the article BainsBane Jan 2014 #146

yeah, no point trying to explain to you so have a great day. loli phabay Jan 2014 #152

My daughter tried Tinder when it first came out and I didn't think it was too bad. If I recall seaglass Jan 2014 #159

My 19 year old was just talking about it a few days ago. Xithras Jan 2014 #169

The way it worked when it first started was that you could not contact the person until you seaglass Jan 2014 #170

A friend of ours had men start with the phrase, riqster Jan 2014 #4

wow. that's disgusting Liberal_in_LA Jan 2014 #6

Yeah. Thank the Gods I'm off the market, along with my wife. riqster Jan 2014 #9

Us, too. I wouldn't date these days for a million dollars. nt Nay Jan 2014 #14

I would AgingAmerican Jan 2014 #102

Benjamin Franklin never said that quote. MattBaggins Jan 2014 #79

thats fairly common from both sexes, you tend to get straight out statements on the chat loli phabay Jan 2014 #21

"kneel, bitch" is fairly common opening line? geek tragedy Jan 2014 #58

yes, if typed by a dom or domme seeing if the respondent is sub or not. saves time loli phabay Jan 2014 #59

Ah, so they verbally abuse strangers with hate speech in order to troll geek tragedy Jan 2014 #62

its not trolling, its shortspeak on the dating websites, only newbies spend hours talking about cats loli phabay Jan 2014 #65

there's not much that's going to convince me that non-dysfunctional pathetic weirdos geek tragedy Jan 2014 #66

ymmv, its the same as typing asl, sex, race, cam, pics, trade or whatever loli phabay Jan 2014 #67

what an odd subculture nt geek tragedy Jan 2014 #70

No doubt the poster makes rather creative and imaginative allegations for "kneel b***h" LanternWaste Jan 2014 #89

It's not the subculture BainsBane Jan 2014 #147

You have to read the urban dictionry entry on asl - oh wth I'll just copy some of it over. seaglass Jan 2014 #163

You might have a point... Lunacee_2013 Jan 2014 #124

you do know that all the dating sites have the whole spectrum of people on them, bdsm etc is loli phabay Jan 2014 #151

Plenty of dating sites Lunacee_2013 Jan 2014 #181

no idea about this individual, or the room that the guy was in, but the poster could have been troll loli phabay Jan 2014 #183

Wait, multiple men said the *exact* same thing to her? Lunacee_2013 Jan 2014 #122

wth is 4chan uneasy? leftyohiolib Jan 2014 #5

"4chan" is a giant online bulletin board where everyone posts anonymously bullwinkle428 Jan 2014 #8

It's just 4chan and it can be pretty, um, out there and disgusting. nt justiceischeap Jan 2014 #10

so stay wawy thanks for the heads up leftyohiolib Jan 2014 #11

Its the anus of the internet. temporary311 Jan 2014 #12

4chan can be a VERY scary place Kelvin Mace Jan 2014 #42

I am a nice guy and I guess this is why I had trouble iandhr Jan 2014 #15

It honestly does explain it! etherealtruth Jan 2014 #74

There were scams running years ago on dating sites dipsydoodle Jan 2014 #17

There is an Australian who had the Russian girl email thing... uriel1972 Jan 2014 #19

As an aside, this is why I hate people who do fake ads Blue_Tires Jan 2014 #23

yup me to, its not as if if they post the truth that there wont be someone interested. loli phabay Jan 2014 #63

Indeed. A small social network site I used to frequent got taken over by fakes. arcane1 Jan 2014 #95

yup, i do hosting on a couple of dating websites and i zap a lot of people practicing subterfuge loli phabay Jan 2014 #156

My friend got sucked into one of those AgingAmerican Jan 2014 #104

Guys kind of have to be like that. CFLDem Jan 2014 #20

also why waste time if you want a certain thing. be upfront. saves time loli phabay Jan 2014 #22

Exactly CFLDem Jan 2014 #28

yup, on the hookup sites its even more blunt, usually asl then sexual acts loli phabay Jan 2014 #30

It's more about finding women who consider "slightly insulting" or "weird" redqueen Jan 2014 #32

Dating is a numbers game. CFLDem Jan 2014 #34

You're changing the subject. This guy was disgusted by *aggressive and vulgar* messages. redqueen Jan 2014 #36

It's online dating. CFLDem Jan 2014 #37

Thanks. redqueen Jan 2014 #38

You are most welcome. CFLDem Jan 2014 #39

Yes. Thanks for making it clear. redqueen Jan 2014 #44

I'm confused. CFLDem Jan 2014 #50

You're suggesting that men be creepy, vaguely threatening weirdos on the Internet. nt geek tragedy Jan 2014 #57

I can't imagine that gets results. If it does, then we're even worse off as a species than I thought nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #60

I'm guessing this is dating advice for the 'red pill' crowd geek tragedy Jan 2014 #61

And the sad thing is, someone somewhere might be just damaged enough to take them up on it. nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #64

Not to make you frightened for the future of the human race, but... Shandris Jan 2014 #69

So I guess they start with an aggressive, demeaning message ("Kneel!") to establish dominance nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #84

I wish I knew. I'd lean more towards the twisted form of caring/confidence than the way... Shandris Jan 2014 #88

I noticed. Ino Jan 2014 #83

So many are offended when the word "creep" is mentioned, yet so many accurately exemplify it without LanternWaste Jan 2014 #92

I couldn't agree more. Sheldon Cooper Jan 2014 #93

Aren't you glad BainsBane Jan 2014 #144

Upthread it's asserted that it's perfectly fine to greet women with "Kneel, bitch." redqueen Jan 2014 #157

I don't get why they don't just stick to fetlife and similar rather than polluting other sites. seaglass Jan 2014 #161

Maybe they're confused about the meaning of the word 'date'. nt redqueen Jan 2014 #162

IMO BainsBane Jan 2014 #168

Gee where on earth would dudes get the idea that women are sex objects? redqueen Jan 2014 #174

Why not? Revanchist Jan 2014 #77

To each their own CFLDem Jan 2014 #80

Umm, yeah? tkmorris Jan 2014 #116

People are who they are BainsBane Jan 2014 #148

Considering it a game is a major reason why many people aren't very good at it. LanternWaste Jan 2014 #90

Actually I find taking it too seriously, CFLDem Jan 2014 #100

I find your dating philosophy strange. kwassa Jan 2014 #127

I think you're reading way too much into it. CFLDem Jan 2014 #149

Pretty much shaayecanaan Jan 2014 #56

Counterpoint : I put together a profile for myself on the PoF site, and from the bullwinkle428 Jan 2014 #98

+ 1,000,000 Lunacee_2013 Jan 2014 #132

The "PUA movement" is a cancer on today's masculinity Recursion Jan 2014 #135

Is a woman who responds to "cocky asshole" really worth dating? tkmorris Jan 2014 #115

Umm.... I wasn't. Recursion Jan 2014 #134

women live in a different world. mopinko Jan 2014 #24

Sad to say, you are wrong. Women live in the exact same world as men, KitSileya Jan 2014 #171

nobody is stopping them. mopinko Jan 2014 #180

I wanted to counter the notion that women live "in a parallel universe" KitSileya Jan 2014 #182

ok, tell that to jimmy carter. mopinko Jan 2014 #184

I'm sure it is rough but Bonobo Jan 2014 #26

The article also uses the phrase "us womenz" nt Cali_Democrat Jan 2014 #47

I have no doubt ... 1StrongBlackMan Jan 2014 #46

Plus nothing beats a referral from a friend. n/t CFLDem Jan 2014 #49

Yeah, because ... 1StrongBlackMan Jan 2014 #99

Yessir CFLDem Jan 2014 #101

Lately I have been playing this on line game... its been hella fun! However... yuiyoshida Jan 2014 #54

a couple decades ago I was coming out of a convenience store Skittles Jan 2014 #72

wow! yuiyoshida Jan 2014 #82

I wish more rude assholes would get that treatment! nomorenomore08 Jan 2014 #85

I would have been willing... 3catwoman3 Jan 2014 #91

Nope. I learned my lesson. n/t cherokeeprogressive Jan 2014 #119

I WILL KICK PERV CHEROKEEPROGRESIVE ASS Skittles Jan 2014 #121

That's not fair... a guy's gotta do what a guy's gotta do. n/t cherokeeprogressive Jan 2014 #125

SO DOES A KICK-ASS GAL Skittles Jan 2014 #141

Ick. temporary311 Jan 2014 #94

I have had similar things happen A Little Weird Jan 2014 #114

Someone suggested I be gender neutral yuiyoshida Jan 2014 #118

Yes A Little Weird Jan 2014 #120

My only issue with online dating was a lack of responses alarimer Jan 2014 #78

Heck. Just check out the ads on Craigs List. Lint Head Jan 2014 #86

The whole purpose of those Craigslist forums is for adults to hook up. Vashta Nerada Jan 2014 #97

If you actually read the original post you would know what I am implying. Lint Head Jan 2014 #136

Way to ignore what I wrote. Vashta Nerada Jan 2014 #138

Insult much? Lint Head Jan 2014 #139

I have never been on a dating site. Beacool Jan 2014 #106

No wonder a lot of women think men are gross. blackspade Jan 2014 #107

Online dating is a fucking cesspool of disgustingness. MadrasT Jan 2014 #111

I hear ya and have experienced that, I found them so adolescent and disgusting! nt arthritisR_US Jan 2014 #123

:shrug: I met my wife through OK Cupid Recursion Jan 2014 #130

That is exactly why I gave up on dating sites. nt arthritisR_US Jan 2014 #117

This is wh,y I gave up on men. mzteris Jan 2014 #126

Sometimes a rest really is needed, I so understand! arthritisR_US Jan 2014 #137

That's sad. dawg Jan 2014 #172

Bear in mind the poster freely admits to lying online, so the whole thing may be a lie. grahamhgreen Jan 2014 #143

Turn off IM and use site's "email" messaging unc70 Jan 2014 #145

It's not just online MissMillie Jan 2014 #158

PUA defenders like to pretend it's a way to get a relationship. redqueen Jan 2014 #173

In other news, water is still wet Orrex Jan 2014 #160

You mean he wasn't flattered by all the attention? historylovr Jan 2014 #165

Not sure how this works marle35 Jan 2014 #179