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Gormy Cuss

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206. When you observe that man explaining more to women and less to guys, that's how.

Sun Jul 6, 2014, 09:42 AM

Jul 2014

If he truly does it oblivious to gender it's not mansplaining. It's just egotistical, know-it-all behavior. However, the fact that he does it seemingly equally to either gender may not mean that it's gender-neutral.

For example, if a board is loose and it needs to be reattached, he may explain to a man that he'll need a hammer to tighten up that nail, but to a woman he may explain it first by showing her the hammer and cautioning her on not hitting her thumb by accident when she's hammering and come to think of it, maybe he should demonstrate how it's done. In that case he's mansplaining it because the presumption is that the hapless man has some skills but the hapless woman has none.

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Why you'll never hear this Feminist use the word "Mansplain"... [View all] Bonobo Jul 2014 OP

Thanks for mansplaining that to us.nt bravenak Jul 2014 #1

+1 sheshe2 Jul 2014 #5

The article was written by a woman. Was she "mansplaining"? nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #7

I hadn't read reply #1 before composing my other reply (#6), but that's a perfect example. Electric Monk Jul 2014 #12

Maybe?nt bravenak Jul 2014 #31

Maybe "lecturing in a condescending way"? nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #35

You're trying to erase the whole point: that this is a gendered behavior. nt LeftyMom Jul 2014 #44

Actually I am arguing against that fact. Bonobo Jul 2014 #49

It is a gendered behavior. Men do it to women all the damn time. Women don't do it to men or women, LeftyMom Jul 2014 #51

I think that is the bottom line. You think that and I disagree. Bonobo Jul 2014 #55

Sorry, but women do it all the time, too. liberalhistorian Jul 2014 #174

When a woman does it it is called being bossy. AngryAmish Jul 2014 #203

I'm not fully understanding can you explain it with a little more detail please! snooper2 Jul 2014 #211

Women mansplain to other women sometimes. bravenak Jul 2014 #46

If they do, why not choose a different word? Bonobo Jul 2014 #68

We like the word. It's fitting. bravenak Jul 2014 #71

I'll try not to be condescending. Is that okay? Bonobo Jul 2014 #73

The ACT is sexist. laundry_queen Jul 2014 #123

Boom. There it is. Truth. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #147

The hell they are. I've known liberalhistorian Jul 2014 #179

You are sooooo popular! JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #183

so you agree the concept exists, but the word is wrong. alp227 Jul 2014 #178

I've had the misfortunate of knowing plenty of women liberalhistorian Jul 2014 #177

EXACTLY. AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #96

You, uh, manPOSTED it! Union Scribe Jul 2014 #121

they always find the woman or the black person who will say it for them treestar Jul 2014 #209

LOL DURHAM D Jul 2014 #25

Two year old article.nt bravenak Jul 2014 #54

Is that all you got? AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #110

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Jul 2014 #119

Huh? She's an active poster. I don't get it... cyberswede Jul 2014 #150

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Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #200

She was only "shown the door" as far as this thread goes, not all of DU, for having a post hidden.nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #157

LOL - she's probably better off, since this is just a flamebait thread anyway. cyberswede Jul 2014 #158

+1 n/t JTFrog Jul 2014 #160

Thank you for that post. Warpy Jul 2014 #127

I'll stop saying it when men stop talking down to me about things I know more about than them. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #2

Gender has nothing to do with that behavior. Bonobo Jul 2014 #3

Thanks for telling me what it's like to be female. You're right, I have no idea how men talk to me. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #8

Ummm, written by a woman. Bonobo Jul 2014 #13

I'm responding to you. Which is a waste of my time. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #14

You must be getting something out of it. Bonobo Jul 2014 #16

So what do you get out of antagonizing female DUers? LeftyMom Jul 2014 #17

Are you antagonized because I posted a feminist saying she never uses the term "mansplaining"? Bonobo Jul 2014 #21

Your MO is to stir shit with women generally and feminists in particular. What's in that for you? LeftyMom Jul 2014 #26

You do sound antagonized. Bonobo Jul 2014 #33

Nope, but thanks for tone trolling. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #34

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Your argument about how having a word for the way men talk down to women is unhelpful, LeftyMom Jul 2014 #48

I don't even really understand what you just said. nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #52

Yeah, no kidding. nt LeftyMom Jul 2014 #53

... redqueen Jul 2014 #64

good to know that one is jury proof because we all know about this one ... Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #162

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Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #58

Tone trolling is a particularly heinous micro aggression JVS Jul 2014 #83

Is it like leaving the toilet seat up? LuvLoogie Jul 2014 #125

"I didn't mean to antagonize anyone." cyberswede Jul 2014 #166

What do you get out of antagonizing liberalhistorian Jul 2014 #185

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #233

You don't know any women who do the same thing? Beartracks Jul 2014 #142

I know perfectly well what it's like to liberalhistorian Jul 2014 #184

he doesn't get it noiretextatique Jul 2014 #217

"Blondsplaining" sheshe2 Jul 2014 #9

Ummm, men are blondes too. Bonobo Jul 2014 #11

Here's a peppy little ditty.... LuvLoogie Jul 2014 #133

What utter nonsense. Since when are men portrayed as ditzy blondes in the media. R B Garr Jul 2014 #195

"Will in no way compare." ok. Here's Jeff Daniels in Dumb & Dumber, anyway. YMMV Electric Monk Jul 2014 #196

Google dumb blondes and see what comes up. R B Garr Jul 2014 #197

Uhm, some men can be dumb at times. Jamastiene Jul 2014 #239

+1 XemaSab Jul 2014 #36

I don't how many times men have lectured me about feminism without knowing the basic history bettyellen Jul 2014 #59

That's right. Anyone can mansplain. Louisiana1976 Jul 2014 #4

Many times I've seen it used on DU it as basically trying to invalidate some guys opinion Electric Monk Jul 2014 #6

"Shut up and listen to me lecture you about lecturing." Bonobo Jul 2014 #10

You're framing it as being told to "shut up simply because of...gender", alp227 Jul 2014 #180

See reply #1 of this very thread we are currently in for Exhibit A. nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #190

Now i'm in a quandry Scootaloo Jul 2014 #15

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Yes, your quandary is due to the ridiculousness of the term. Bonobo Jul 2014 #20

If men are silenced and castrated by feminists IronLionZion Jul 2014 #111

The author makes a good point, but misses another leftstreet Jul 2014 #23

May I diffidently offer the tentative opinion Jackpine Radical Jul 2014 #38

It's just another dumb internet invented fad word quinnox Jul 2014 #19

^^winner^^ Puzzledtraveller Jul 2014 #181

I don't agree with this article. LisaLynne Jul 2014 #22

Best post in the thread. redqueen Jul 2014 #41

+1 It's a term unique to a woman's experience leftstreet Jul 2014 #61

+1 BrotherIvan Jul 2014 #115

The term describes a specific social behavior laundry_queen Jul 2014 #137

As a fellow lady IT professional, I agree 100%. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #143

Great post! cyberswede Jul 2014 #151

Yes, thank you. I worked in IT for almost 2 decades. MadrasT Jul 2014 #204

+1. My friends used to call it Male Answer Syndrome... winter is coming Jul 2014 #207

Results Sissyk Jul 2014 #24

Wow, what an inappropriate alert. Bonobo Jul 2014 #27

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Jul 2014 #29

Wow, what an obvious and chickenshit alert. n/t Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #60

Not a good reason for alerting...I'm surprised it even got 3 hide votes. alp227 Jul 2014 #193

This post was alerted on... I was on the jury alittlelark Jul 2014 #28

Oh, thanks for putting your poor judgment out there for everyone to see. nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #30

You say you are a female, but you sound like my alittlelark Jul 2014 #40

Wow... The jury system... Bonobo Jul 2014 #43

Sounds like you are mansplaining to the general audience alittlelark Jul 2014 #50

Where has Bonobo ever said he was female? JVS Jul 2014 #67

Assumption on my part I guess.... alittlelark Jul 2014 #91

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You have a 40% chance for jury and have this quote in your profile... alittlelark Jul 2014 #130

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maybe next time go to the link source, and you would have seen this article was written by a woman.. quinnox Jul 2014 #32

A little bit ironic, wouldn't you say? nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #39

I'd say so. But at least it is novel to see someone proudly proclaim they voted to hide a post, lol quinnox Jul 2014 #42

And based on a whole series of misunderstandings Bonobo Jul 2014 #47

Phyllis Schlafly is a woman too..... alittlelark Jul 2014 #45

I think an opening on my jury blacklist just opened up... quinnox Jul 2014 #56

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Heh, you just read my mind. quinnox Jul 2014 #66

I have a 100% chance for a jury - you have a 60% chance.... alittlelark Jul 2014 #63

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Jul 2014 #72

I know what I know...and I don't 'fling poo'. alittlelark Jul 2014 #95

No shit. This one earned it and wears it proudly. Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #70

A blunt assessment, but one I tend to agree with quinnox Jul 2014 #84

Just....WOW.... As a JURY member I made a choice. alittlelark Jul 2014 #102

Ugly..... really..... alittlelark Jul 2014 #148

Pretty cool Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #163

I think they were saying they thought your vote to lock was "ugly", not you quinnox Jul 2014 #164

The point is that I am not ashamed to say who I am... alittlelark Jul 2014 #168

That's a good point JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #169

Um......wow. I'm sorry, but.....really? AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #112

The author is a self-hating woman - lots out there (Faux news etc.) alittlelark Jul 2014 #132

I didn't see any self-hate emanating of that article. AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #136

Maybe you're manreading. JVS Jul 2014 #152

Lulz, man. xD AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #199

If you are indeed an 'average joe' you would not recognize it. alittlelark Jul 2014 #155

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see post 168.... alittlelark Jul 2014 #173

"Not trying to be insulting.... but it is what it is." Well, unfortunately, you kinda failed there. AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #198

I will alter my guess to be 'insecure'... alittlelark Jul 2014 #231

Love how you RACED to find a TWO YEAR OLD article to post about this. bravenak Jul 2014 #65

Just a little post on a little corner of the internet. Bonobo Jul 2014 #69

I said i LOVE how you RACED to post this TWO YEAR old article. bravenak Jul 2014 #75

You are adorable!!!! nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #76

LOL no shit, this thread delivers like Domino's! redqueen Jul 2014 #80

Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #82

Oh, excellent. An opportunity to share this: redqueen Jul 2014 #97

So we now have a couple of great new terms that, in effect, turn normal but "bad" human behavior Bonobo Jul 2014 #105

I think gaslighting originally could be applied to either gender, though, IIRC. AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #116

Gaslight is an excellent movie, redqueen. Have you seen it? There are two versions. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #156

The Bergman version isn't the original? cyberswede Jul 2014 #170

me too! I just learned of the earlier version about a year ago. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #171

An interesting article, but it sounds a lot to me like hughee99 Jul 2014 #176

That second picture is awesome! JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #172

Do you enjoy throwing this old 'poo'? alittlelark Jul 2014 #77

Do I enjoy discussing different opinions and issues on subjects on a discussion board? Bonobo Jul 2014 #79

No, it was not... it was asking if you are actively trying to alittlelark Jul 2014 #85

LOL, no I am posting an opinion about sexism written by a feminist that I agree with. Bonobo Jul 2014 #87

uhhhhh, you are the one w/ the angry posts... review this thread. alittlelark Jul 2014 #104

You keep saying the author is a feminist. Warpy Jul 2014 #129

^^^^ This ^^^ alittlelark Jul 2014 #135

She says she is and I wouldn't presume to tell her she is not. Bonobo Jul 2014 #139

Those guys w/ white hoods aren't KKK...... alittlelark Jul 2014 #175

Sarah Palin says she's a feminist, too Warpy Jul 2014 #188

Exactly. n/t JTFrog Jul 2014 #194

So what? It's General Discussion, not Late Breaking News. Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #74

Didn't you read the part where i said i LOVE this? bravenak Jul 2014 #78

"It's not about the nail!" Bonobo Jul 2014 #81

What a shame that you can no longer participate in this thread for having a post hidden 5-2. nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #86

I don't think she deserved a hide for that. Bonobo Jul 2014 #88

Since that's what the OP was trolling for... JTFrog Jul 2014 #89

Ask yourself why people cannot discuss things on a discussion board... Bonobo Jul 2014 #90

Nothing you mansplain is going to lead to growth and learning around here. JTFrog Jul 2014 #94

Like I said, it was written by a Feminist. So it is not me "mansplaining" anything. Bonobo Jul 2014 #98

Dude. JTFrog Jul 2014 #100

Thanks! Bonobo Jul 2014 #101

Yea, you like to tell women how they should feel. JTFrog Jul 2014 #103

Abso-friggin-lutely. TDale313 Jul 2014 #189

^^^^^^^^ redqueen Jul 2014 #106

Look in the mirror...... alittlelark Jul 2014 #191

unintentional irony. Warren Stupidity Jul 2014 #220

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How does one race to post something two years old? nt Union Scribe Jul 2014 #122

Better than organizing against Hobby Lobby. Gotta keep things in perspective, Bravenak! freshwest Jul 2014 #134

Love it! JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #186

Kudos on the PAC! freshwest Jul 2014 #192

He must not be getting enough bites over at Discussionist.nt sufrommich Jul 2014 #208

Summertime, and the livin' is easy, fish are jumpin' betsuni Jul 2014 #212

Well now that he's on vacation again.... JTFrog Jul 2014 #213

They bite back very hard over there. seaglass Jul 2014 #218

I willing to bet on 2-3 threads spawning from this. Inkfreak Jul 2014 #92

That's a damn safe bet. What kind of odds will you give me? Bonobo Jul 2014 #93

Well, it appears only one has spawned. Inkfreak Jul 2014 #205

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Read my rebuttal thread to find out. (nt) Inkfreak Jul 2014 #113

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lol, to quote another post in this thread, "Good Call" quinnox Jul 2014 #117

"Mainsplain" is an intellectual crutch LittleBlue Jul 2014 #99

Very well said. nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #109

Notice the completely baseless accusations of self-hatred as well. AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #201

I thought you wrote "intellectual crotch." betsuni Jul 2014 #210

Thanks for posting this. Very good article.....even if it *is* just a tad dated. =) AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #107

Excellent article MannyGoldstein Jul 2014 #124

I feel kind of the same way about the phrase "gender wars." Zenlitened Jul 2014 #126

I always called those guys blowhards. nt valerief Jul 2014 #128

Ok, I'll put some money on it BrotherIvan Jul 2014 #131

It is self fulfilling. When women do it, it isn't mansplaining and Bonobo Jul 2014 #138

Prove me wrong BrotherIvan Jul 2014 #161

What about the opposite of that The Straight Story Jul 2014 #140

I generally don't think my opinion equals a lifetime of experience BrotherIvan Jul 2014 #167

Good idea yewberry Jul 2014 #141

Before mansplaining became popular gort Jul 2014 #145

and it's quite futting the actor who played Cliff Clavin is a right wing asshole. alp227 Jul 2014 #187

Thank you. nt littlemissmartypants Jul 2014 #146

As a guy who works with people who constantly hughee99 Jul 2014 #149

When you observe that man explaining more to women and less to guys, that's how. Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #206

To each there own, though I agree with some points expressed lets just say I personally feel AuntPatsy Jul 2014 #153

Good For her. She is a real feminist, by golly. wow. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #159

Not All Mansplainers? betsuni Jul 2014 #202

Well this thread did get him a well deserved time out. JTFrog Jul 2014 #214

The vex is on the other foot! betsuni Jul 2014 #215

Well done! n/t JTFrog Jul 2014 #216

lol redqueen Jul 2014 #222

In which the OP predictably gets locked out of his own thread. Warren Stupidity Jul 2014 #219

I think it's a terrific term. I'll continue to use it, where applicable. (nt) Paladin Jul 2014 #221

My other favorite is "neckbeard" Starry Messenger Jul 2014 #223

That's what passes as a neckbeard these days? WatermelonRat Jul 2014 #224

Is that for real? Disgusting magazine! freshwest Jul 2014 #225

Clearly a faked "magazine cover" photoshop. Not real. nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #226

Only slightly relieved to hear that... Not like those memes haven't been around elsewhere... TY. freshwest Jul 2014 #229

No, it's satire. Starry Messenger Jul 2014 #227

Well, it didn't miss a thing, did it? Thanks for explaining that! freshwest Jul 2014 #228

Missed one: The Myth of White Male Privilege betsuni Jul 2014 #230

I see you.... likely quite a few others do as well... alittlelark Jul 2014 #232

See me adding to the satire? betsuni Jul 2014 #234

Wait, I just realized, you and quite a few others see me right now? Better put on some clothes! betsuni Jul 2014 #235

I have a small sad that you'll never apologize for being wrong betsuni Jul 2014 #236

Poster is unable to reply pinboy3niner Jul 2014 #237

Ah! Thank you. betsuni Jul 2014 #238