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212. Summertime, and the livin' is easy, fish are jumpin'

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Sun Jul 6, 2014, 10:40 AM

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Why you'll never hear this Feminist use the word "Mansplain"... [View all] Bonobo Jul 2014 OP

Thanks for mansplaining that to us.nt bravenak Jul 2014 #1

+1 sheshe2 Jul 2014 #5

The article was written by a woman. Was she "mansplaining"? nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #7

I hadn't read reply #1 before composing my other reply (#6), but that's a perfect example. Electric Monk Jul 2014 #12

Maybe?nt bravenak Jul 2014 #31

Maybe "lecturing in a condescending way"? nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #35

You're trying to erase the whole point: that this is a gendered behavior. nt LeftyMom Jul 2014 #44

Actually I am arguing against that fact. Bonobo Jul 2014 #49

It is a gendered behavior. Men do it to women all the damn time. Women don't do it to men or women, LeftyMom Jul 2014 #51

I think that is the bottom line. You think that and I disagree. Bonobo Jul 2014 #55

Sorry, but women do it all the time, too. liberalhistorian Jul 2014 #174

When a woman does it it is called being bossy. AngryAmish Jul 2014 #203

I'm not fully understanding can you explain it with a little more detail please! snooper2 Jul 2014 #211

Women mansplain to other women sometimes. bravenak Jul 2014 #46

If they do, why not choose a different word? Bonobo Jul 2014 #68

We like the word. It's fitting. bravenak Jul 2014 #71

I'll try not to be condescending. Is that okay? Bonobo Jul 2014 #73

The ACT is sexist. laundry_queen Jul 2014 #123

Boom. There it is. Truth. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #147

The hell they are. I've known liberalhistorian Jul 2014 #179

You are sooooo popular! JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #183

so you agree the concept exists, but the word is wrong. alp227 Jul 2014 #178

I've had the misfortunate of knowing plenty of women liberalhistorian Jul 2014 #177

EXACTLY. AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #96

You, uh, manPOSTED it! Union Scribe Jul 2014 #121

they always find the woman or the black person who will say it for them treestar Jul 2014 #209

LOL DURHAM D Jul 2014 #25

Two year old article.nt bravenak Jul 2014 #54

Is that all you got? AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #110

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Huh? She's an active poster. I don't get it... cyberswede Jul 2014 #150

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Post removed Post removed Jul 2014 #200

She was only "shown the door" as far as this thread goes, not all of DU, for having a post hidden.nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #157

LOL - she's probably better off, since this is just a flamebait thread anyway. cyberswede Jul 2014 #158

+1 n/t JTFrog Jul 2014 #160

Thank you for that post. Warpy Jul 2014 #127

I'll stop saying it when men stop talking down to me about things I know more about than them. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #2

Gender has nothing to do with that behavior. Bonobo Jul 2014 #3

Thanks for telling me what it's like to be female. You're right, I have no idea how men talk to me. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #8

Ummm, written by a woman. Bonobo Jul 2014 #13

I'm responding to you. Which is a waste of my time. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #14

You must be getting something out of it. Bonobo Jul 2014 #16

So what do you get out of antagonizing female DUers? LeftyMom Jul 2014 #17

Are you antagonized because I posted a feminist saying she never uses the term "mansplaining"? Bonobo Jul 2014 #21

Your MO is to stir shit with women generally and feminists in particular. What's in that for you? LeftyMom Jul 2014 #26

You do sound antagonized. Bonobo Jul 2014 #33

Nope, but thanks for tone trolling. LeftyMom Jul 2014 #34

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Your argument about how having a word for the way men talk down to women is unhelpful, LeftyMom Jul 2014 #48

I don't even really understand what you just said. nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #52

Yeah, no kidding. nt LeftyMom Jul 2014 #53

... redqueen Jul 2014 #64

good to know that one is jury proof because we all know about this one ... Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #162

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Tone trolling is a particularly heinous micro aggression JVS Jul 2014 #83

Is it like leaving the toilet seat up? LuvLoogie Jul 2014 #125

"I didn't mean to antagonize anyone." cyberswede Jul 2014 #166

What do you get out of antagonizing liberalhistorian Jul 2014 #185

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You don't know any women who do the same thing? Beartracks Jul 2014 #142

I know perfectly well what it's like to liberalhistorian Jul 2014 #184

he doesn't get it noiretextatique Jul 2014 #217

"Blondsplaining" sheshe2 Jul 2014 #9

Ummm, men are blondes too. Bonobo Jul 2014 #11

Here's a peppy little ditty.... LuvLoogie Jul 2014 #133

What utter nonsense. Since when are men portrayed as ditzy blondes in the media. R B Garr Jul 2014 #195

"Will in no way compare." ok. Here's Jeff Daniels in Dumb & Dumber, anyway. YMMV Electric Monk Jul 2014 #196

Google dumb blondes and see what comes up. R B Garr Jul 2014 #197

Uhm, some men can be dumb at times. Jamastiene Jul 2014 #239

+1 XemaSab Jul 2014 #36

I don't how many times men have lectured me about feminism without knowing the basic history bettyellen Jul 2014 #59

That's right. Anyone can mansplain. Louisiana1976 Jul 2014 #4

Many times I've seen it used on DU it as basically trying to invalidate some guys opinion Electric Monk Jul 2014 #6

"Shut up and listen to me lecture you about lecturing." Bonobo Jul 2014 #10

You're framing it as being told to "shut up simply because of...gender", alp227 Jul 2014 #180

See reply #1 of this very thread we are currently in for Exhibit A. nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #190

Now i'm in a quandry Scootaloo Jul 2014 #15

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Yes, your quandary is due to the ridiculousness of the term. Bonobo Jul 2014 #20

If men are silenced and castrated by feminists IronLionZion Jul 2014 #111

The author makes a good point, but misses another leftstreet Jul 2014 #23

May I diffidently offer the tentative opinion Jackpine Radical Jul 2014 #38

It's just another dumb internet invented fad word quinnox Jul 2014 #19

^^winner^^ Puzzledtraveller Jul 2014 #181

I don't agree with this article. LisaLynne Jul 2014 #22

Best post in the thread. redqueen Jul 2014 #41

+1 It's a term unique to a woman's experience leftstreet Jul 2014 #61

+1 BrotherIvan Jul 2014 #115

The term describes a specific social behavior laundry_queen Jul 2014 #137

As a fellow lady IT professional, I agree 100%. PeaceNikki Jul 2014 #143

Great post! cyberswede Jul 2014 #151

Yes, thank you. I worked in IT for almost 2 decades. MadrasT Jul 2014 #204

+1. My friends used to call it Male Answer Syndrome... winter is coming Jul 2014 #207

Results Sissyk Jul 2014 #24

Wow, what an inappropriate alert. Bonobo Jul 2014 #27

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Wow, what an obvious and chickenshit alert. n/t Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #60

Not a good reason for alerting...I'm surprised it even got 3 hide votes. alp227 Jul 2014 #193

This post was alerted on... I was on the jury alittlelark Jul 2014 #28

Oh, thanks for putting your poor judgment out there for everyone to see. nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #30

You say you are a female, but you sound like my alittlelark Jul 2014 #40

Wow... The jury system... Bonobo Jul 2014 #43

Sounds like you are mansplaining to the general audience alittlelark Jul 2014 #50

Where has Bonobo ever said he was female? JVS Jul 2014 #67

Assumption on my part I guess.... alittlelark Jul 2014 #91

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You have a 40% chance for jury and have this quote in your profile... alittlelark Jul 2014 #130

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maybe next time go to the link source, and you would have seen this article was written by a woman.. quinnox Jul 2014 #32

A little bit ironic, wouldn't you say? nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #39

I'd say so. But at least it is novel to see someone proudly proclaim they voted to hide a post, lol quinnox Jul 2014 #42

And based on a whole series of misunderstandings Bonobo Jul 2014 #47

Phyllis Schlafly is a woman too..... alittlelark Jul 2014 #45

I think an opening on my jury blacklist just opened up... quinnox Jul 2014 #56

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Heh, you just read my mind. quinnox Jul 2014 #66

I have a 100% chance for a jury - you have a 60% chance.... alittlelark Jul 2014 #63

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I know what I know...and I don't 'fling poo'. alittlelark Jul 2014 #95

No shit. This one earned it and wears it proudly. Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #70

A blunt assessment, but one I tend to agree with quinnox Jul 2014 #84

Just....WOW.... As a JURY member I made a choice. alittlelark Jul 2014 #102

Ugly..... really..... alittlelark Jul 2014 #148

Pretty cool Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #163

I think they were saying they thought your vote to lock was "ugly", not you quinnox Jul 2014 #164

The point is that I am not ashamed to say who I am... alittlelark Jul 2014 #168

That's a good point JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #169

Um......wow. I'm sorry, but.....really? AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #112

The author is a self-hating woman - lots out there (Faux news etc.) alittlelark Jul 2014 #132

I didn't see any self-hate emanating of that article. AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #136

Maybe you're manreading. JVS Jul 2014 #152

Lulz, man. xD AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #199

If you are indeed an 'average joe' you would not recognize it. alittlelark Jul 2014 #155

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see post 168.... alittlelark Jul 2014 #173

"Not trying to be insulting.... but it is what it is." Well, unfortunately, you kinda failed there. AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #198

I will alter my guess to be 'insecure'... alittlelark Jul 2014 #231

Love how you RACED to find a TWO YEAR OLD article to post about this. bravenak Jul 2014 #65

Just a little post on a little corner of the internet. Bonobo Jul 2014 #69

I said i LOVE how you RACED to post this TWO YEAR old article. bravenak Jul 2014 #75

You are adorable!!!! nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #76

LOL no shit, this thread delivers like Domino's! redqueen Jul 2014 #80

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Oh, excellent. An opportunity to share this: redqueen Jul 2014 #97

So we now have a couple of great new terms that, in effect, turn normal but "bad" human behavior Bonobo Jul 2014 #105

I think gaslighting originally could be applied to either gender, though, IIRC. AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #116

Gaslight is an excellent movie, redqueen. Have you seen it? There are two versions. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #156

The Bergman version isn't the original? cyberswede Jul 2014 #170

me too! I just learned of the earlier version about a year ago. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #171

An interesting article, but it sounds a lot to me like hughee99 Jul 2014 #176

That second picture is awesome! JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #172

Do you enjoy throwing this old 'poo'? alittlelark Jul 2014 #77

Do I enjoy discussing different opinions and issues on subjects on a discussion board? Bonobo Jul 2014 #79

No, it was not... it was asking if you are actively trying to alittlelark Jul 2014 #85

LOL, no I am posting an opinion about sexism written by a feminist that I agree with. Bonobo Jul 2014 #87

uhhhhh, you are the one w/ the angry posts... review this thread. alittlelark Jul 2014 #104

You keep saying the author is a feminist. Warpy Jul 2014 #129

^^^^ This ^^^ alittlelark Jul 2014 #135

She says she is and I wouldn't presume to tell her she is not. Bonobo Jul 2014 #139

Those guys w/ white hoods aren't KKK...... alittlelark Jul 2014 #175

Sarah Palin says she's a feminist, too Warpy Jul 2014 #188

Exactly. n/t JTFrog Jul 2014 #194

So what? It's General Discussion, not Late Breaking News. Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #74

Didn't you read the part where i said i LOVE this? bravenak Jul 2014 #78

"It's not about the nail!" Bonobo Jul 2014 #81

What a shame that you can no longer participate in this thread for having a post hidden 5-2. nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #86

I don't think she deserved a hide for that. Bonobo Jul 2014 #88

Since that's what the OP was trolling for... JTFrog Jul 2014 #89

Ask yourself why people cannot discuss things on a discussion board... Bonobo Jul 2014 #90

Nothing you mansplain is going to lead to growth and learning around here. JTFrog Jul 2014 #94

Like I said, it was written by a Feminist. So it is not me "mansplaining" anything. Bonobo Jul 2014 #98

Dude. JTFrog Jul 2014 #100

Thanks! Bonobo Jul 2014 #101

Yea, you like to tell women how they should feel. JTFrog Jul 2014 #103

Abso-friggin-lutely. TDale313 Jul 2014 #189

^^^^^^^^ redqueen Jul 2014 #106

Look in the mirror...... alittlelark Jul 2014 #191

unintentional irony. Warren Stupidity Jul 2014 #220

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How does one race to post something two years old? nt Union Scribe Jul 2014 #122

Better than organizing against Hobby Lobby. Gotta keep things in perspective, Bravenak! freshwest Jul 2014 #134

Love it! JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #186

Kudos on the PAC! freshwest Jul 2014 #192

He must not be getting enough bites over at Discussionist.nt sufrommich Jul 2014 #208

Summertime, and the livin' is easy, fish are jumpin' betsuni Jul 2014 #212

Well now that he's on vacation again.... JTFrog Jul 2014 #213

They bite back very hard over there. seaglass Jul 2014 #218

I willing to bet on 2-3 threads spawning from this. Inkfreak Jul 2014 #92

That's a damn safe bet. What kind of odds will you give me? Bonobo Jul 2014 #93

Well, it appears only one has spawned. Inkfreak Jul 2014 #205

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Read my rebuttal thread to find out. (nt) Inkfreak Jul 2014 #113

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lol, to quote another post in this thread, "Good Call" quinnox Jul 2014 #117

"Mainsplain" is an intellectual crutch LittleBlue Jul 2014 #99

Very well said. nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #109

Notice the completely baseless accusations of self-hatred as well. AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #201

I thought you wrote "intellectual crotch." betsuni Jul 2014 #210

Thanks for posting this. Very good article.....even if it *is* just a tad dated. =) AverageJoe90 Jul 2014 #107

Excellent article MannyGoldstein Jul 2014 #124

I feel kind of the same way about the phrase "gender wars." Zenlitened Jul 2014 #126

I always called those guys blowhards. nt valerief Jul 2014 #128

Ok, I'll put some money on it BrotherIvan Jul 2014 #131

It is self fulfilling. When women do it, it isn't mansplaining and Bonobo Jul 2014 #138

Prove me wrong BrotherIvan Jul 2014 #161

What about the opposite of that The Straight Story Jul 2014 #140

I generally don't think my opinion equals a lifetime of experience BrotherIvan Jul 2014 #167

Good idea yewberry Jul 2014 #141

Before mansplaining became popular gort Jul 2014 #145

and it's quite futting the actor who played Cliff Clavin is a right wing asshole. alp227 Jul 2014 #187

Thank you. nt littlemissmartypants Jul 2014 #146

As a guy who works with people who constantly hughee99 Jul 2014 #149

When you observe that man explaining more to women and less to guys, that's how. Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #206

To each there own, though I agree with some points expressed lets just say I personally feel AuntPatsy Jul 2014 #153

Good For her. She is a real feminist, by golly. wow. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2014 #159

Not All Mansplainers? betsuni Jul 2014 #202

Well this thread did get him a well deserved time out. JTFrog Jul 2014 #214

The vex is on the other foot! betsuni Jul 2014 #215

Well done! n/t JTFrog Jul 2014 #216

lol redqueen Jul 2014 #222

In which the OP predictably gets locked out of his own thread. Warren Stupidity Jul 2014 #219

I think it's a terrific term. I'll continue to use it, where applicable. (nt) Paladin Jul 2014 #221

My other favorite is "neckbeard" Starry Messenger Jul 2014 #223

That's what passes as a neckbeard these days? WatermelonRat Jul 2014 #224

Is that for real? Disgusting magazine! freshwest Jul 2014 #225

Clearly a faked "magazine cover" photoshop. Not real. nt Electric Monk Jul 2014 #226

Only slightly relieved to hear that... Not like those memes haven't been around elsewhere... TY. freshwest Jul 2014 #229

No, it's satire. Starry Messenger Jul 2014 #227

Well, it didn't miss a thing, did it? Thanks for explaining that! freshwest Jul 2014 #228

Missed one: The Myth of White Male Privilege betsuni Jul 2014 #230

I see you.... likely quite a few others do as well... alittlelark Jul 2014 #232

See me adding to the satire? betsuni Jul 2014 #234

Wait, I just realized, you and quite a few others see me right now? Better put on some clothes! betsuni Jul 2014 #235

I have a small sad that you'll never apologize for being wrong betsuni Jul 2014 #236

Poster is unable to reply pinboy3niner Jul 2014 #237

Ah! Thank you. betsuni Jul 2014 #238