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No Vested Interest

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12. I think you have it right, pnwmom, re Adults having access

Fri Apr 17, 2015, 02:58 PM

Apr 2015

to full information.
While there may be unwanted complications for birth parents with the info being available, the adopted adult - 18 yrs and older- has many reasons - both physical and psychological - for wanting/needing this info.

If the birth parents knew at the time of adoption that the birth info could be protected for 18 yrs, I believe the number of adoptions would not be markedly affected.

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On this date, 4/17/1963, Adults entered into a contract that limited my rights without my permission [View all] me b zola Apr 2015 OP

I think you have a right to know your heritage and your ancestry. I've always felt this way. nt MADem Apr 2015 #1

I'm with you here. nt stevenleser Apr 2015 #2

I hope it's not inappropriate to wish you Happy Birthday. cherokeeprogressive Apr 2015 #3

Not inappropriate at all me b zola Apr 2015 #24

... shenmue Apr 2015 #4

Hugs back attcha! me b zola Apr 2015 #25

(((((((me b zola)))))))... TeeYiYi Apr 2015 #5

I am also an adoptee, and I wholeheartedly agree. [n/t] Maedhros Apr 2015 #6

You are so right. yellowwoodII Apr 2015 #7

Hello yellowood me b zola Apr 2015 #61

I absolutely agree! Also what is the object of not opening the records after a certain shraby Apr 2015 #8

Great. If you live in a Red state, you probably can't vote. KamaAina Apr 2015 #9

I live in a red state Runningdawg Apr 2015 #10

No, there is no catch 22 me b zola Apr 2015 #13

Every adult should be entitled to access to full information about their birth and their parents. pnwmom Apr 2015 #11

I think you have it right, pnwmom, re Adults having access No Vested Interest Apr 2015 #12

I knew a woman years ago who was so frustrated about not getting this information. pnwmom Apr 2015 #16

Well, if the parents didn't want contact with her, that's their business. No Vested Interest Apr 2015 #17

This was pre-internet, so she didn't know how to find siblings; she only knew that they existed. pnwmom Apr 2015 #53

Well if she never met them are they really her family? ncjustice80 Apr 2015 #55

If you had full siblings related by blood wouldn't you want at least the chance to know them? pnwmom Apr 2015 #58

Not really. ncjustice80 Apr 2015 #59

You know your bio family and you control your degree of contact. That's all adoptees are asking for. pnwmom Apr 2015 #60

while I have nothing against the adoption system... Takket Apr 2015 #14

Probably red state anti-abortion bullshit. ncjustice80 Apr 2015 #57

My parents ... Helen Borg Apr 2015 #15

And I bet your birth certificate list their names me b zola Apr 2015 #23

Just putting things in perspective! :) Helen Borg Apr 2015 #27

Yeah...no me b zola Apr 2015 #32

No, the *OP* is putting things in perspective Cal Carpenter Apr 2015 #56

Would you have rather your birth mother performed an abortion? question everything Apr 2015 #18

Apparently you don't question everything, or at least not enough of yourself me b zola Apr 2015 #22

This post does an excellent job of displaying what is wrong with our attitudes about adoption StevieM Apr 2015 #30

I do feel for the birth mother question everything Apr 2015 #41

It is good to be angry about an injustice. It motivates us to go out and fight for change. StevieM Apr 2015 #42

Wow, you ought to win something for that. A-Schwarzenegger Apr 2015 #35

My husband's Aunt chose abortion so a grown child wouldn't come looking for her HockeyMom Apr 2015 #38

The OP says that she is in reunion. That means that she has found and reunited with her birth family StevieM Apr 2015 #40

your husband's aunt ended an unwanted pregnancy. barbtries Apr 2015 #49

I'm an adoptee, too. And I could not agree with you MORE!!! calimary Apr 2015 #19

Small problem with that HockeyMom Apr 2015 #43

I did not know the names of either one. Finally found siblings. calimary Apr 2015 #51

Do you know if your biological mother talked about you or expressed a desire to reunite with you? StevieM Apr 2015 #52

It was a secret she took with her to her grave. Nobody could have guessed. calimary Apr 2015 #54

I support adoptees rights to know their birth heritage, health history, ancestry, etc. Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #20

You raise a very important issue. JDPriestly Apr 2015 #21

I am a birth mother Blue_In_AK Apr 2015 #26

Oh Blue! me b zola Apr 2015 #62

Oh, of course. I took nothing of what you said personally. Blue_In_AK Apr 2015 #63

I remember you once wrote that you had daughters. Have either of them StevieM Apr 2015 #64

I have three daughters. Blue_In_AK Apr 2015 #65

Both of our kids... meaculpa2011 Apr 2015 #28

Thank you for your response. I am very happy that both of your children have their records me b zola Apr 2015 #44

Maybe I missed something. meaculpa2011 Apr 2015 #29

When an adoption happens the state seals the original birth certificate and replaces it with StevieM Apr 2015 #34

Thanks for the info about the amended certificate. ManiacJoe Apr 2015 #48

Yes, I am in reunion with both sides of my natural family me b zola Apr 2015 #39

Agreed. meaculpa2011 Apr 2015 #46

Happy Birthday, Me B Zola. I actually had thought of you a couple days ago. There was an article StevieM Apr 2015 #31

Know the Laws!!!!! citizen blues Apr 2015 #33

Exactly. Mothers don't forget. And they never asked to be "protected" from their children. StevieM Apr 2015 #36

thank you barbtries Apr 2015 #50

That's a powerful story. Thanks for sharing. Faryn Balyncd Apr 2015 #45

My goodness! DawgHouse Apr 2015 #37

Happy Birthday, me b zola beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #47

Your permission was impossible to obtain at the time treestar Apr 2015 #66

The sealing of birth records had nothing to do with a birth mother's privacy. StevieM Apr 2015 #67

I agree the society then gave little choice treestar Apr 2015 #68