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StevieM

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40. The OP says that she is in reunion. That means that she has found and reunited with her birth family

Fri Apr 17, 2015, 05:40 PM

Apr 2015

Or at least those members of her birth family that are still alive.

And if your aunt and uncle had given up that baby....they might well have grieved for her for the rest of their lives. Then again, once she was born they might have changed their minds about the adoption.

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On this date, 4/17/1963, Adults entered into a contract that limited my rights without my permission [View all] me b zola Apr 2015 OP

I think you have a right to know your heritage and your ancestry. I've always felt this way. nt MADem Apr 2015 #1

I'm with you here. nt stevenleser Apr 2015 #2

I hope it's not inappropriate to wish you Happy Birthday. cherokeeprogressive Apr 2015 #3

Not inappropriate at all me b zola Apr 2015 #24

... shenmue Apr 2015 #4

Hugs back attcha! me b zola Apr 2015 #25

(((((((me b zola)))))))... TeeYiYi Apr 2015 #5

I am also an adoptee, and I wholeheartedly agree. [n/t] Maedhros Apr 2015 #6

You are so right. yellowwoodII Apr 2015 #7

Hello yellowood me b zola Apr 2015 #61

I absolutely agree! Also what is the object of not opening the records after a certain shraby Apr 2015 #8

Great. If you live in a Red state, you probably can't vote. KamaAina Apr 2015 #9

I live in a red state Runningdawg Apr 2015 #10

No, there is no catch 22 me b zola Apr 2015 #13

Every adult should be entitled to access to full information about their birth and their parents. pnwmom Apr 2015 #11

I think you have it right, pnwmom, re Adults having access No Vested Interest Apr 2015 #12

I knew a woman years ago who was so frustrated about not getting this information. pnwmom Apr 2015 #16

Well, if the parents didn't want contact with her, that's their business. No Vested Interest Apr 2015 #17

This was pre-internet, so she didn't know how to find siblings; she only knew that they existed. pnwmom Apr 2015 #53

Well if she never met them are they really her family? ncjustice80 Apr 2015 #55

If you had full siblings related by blood wouldn't you want at least the chance to know them? pnwmom Apr 2015 #58

Not really. ncjustice80 Apr 2015 #59

You know your bio family and you control your degree of contact. That's all adoptees are asking for. pnwmom Apr 2015 #60

while I have nothing against the adoption system... Takket Apr 2015 #14

Probably red state anti-abortion bullshit. ncjustice80 Apr 2015 #57

My parents ... Helen Borg Apr 2015 #15

And I bet your birth certificate list their names me b zola Apr 2015 #23

Just putting things in perspective! :) Helen Borg Apr 2015 #27

Yeah...no me b zola Apr 2015 #32

No, the *OP* is putting things in perspective Cal Carpenter Apr 2015 #56

Would you have rather your birth mother performed an abortion? question everything Apr 2015 #18

Apparently you don't question everything, or at least not enough of yourself me b zola Apr 2015 #22

This post does an excellent job of displaying what is wrong with our attitudes about adoption StevieM Apr 2015 #30

I do feel for the birth mother question everything Apr 2015 #41

It is good to be angry about an injustice. It motivates us to go out and fight for change. StevieM Apr 2015 #42

Wow, you ought to win something for that. A-Schwarzenegger Apr 2015 #35

My husband's Aunt chose abortion so a grown child wouldn't come looking for her HockeyMom Apr 2015 #38

The OP says that she is in reunion. That means that she has found and reunited with her birth family StevieM Apr 2015 #40

your husband's aunt ended an unwanted pregnancy. barbtries Apr 2015 #49

I'm an adoptee, too. And I could not agree with you MORE!!! calimary Apr 2015 #19

Small problem with that HockeyMom Apr 2015 #43

I did not know the names of either one. Finally found siblings. calimary Apr 2015 #51

Do you know if your biological mother talked about you or expressed a desire to reunite with you? StevieM Apr 2015 #52

It was a secret she took with her to her grave. Nobody could have guessed. calimary Apr 2015 #54

I support adoptees rights to know their birth heritage, health history, ancestry, etc. Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #20

You raise a very important issue. JDPriestly Apr 2015 #21

I am a birth mother Blue_In_AK Apr 2015 #26

Oh Blue! me b zola Apr 2015 #62

Oh, of course. I took nothing of what you said personally. Blue_In_AK Apr 2015 #63

I remember you once wrote that you had daughters. Have either of them StevieM Apr 2015 #64

I have three daughters. Blue_In_AK Apr 2015 #65

Both of our kids... meaculpa2011 Apr 2015 #28

Thank you for your response. I am very happy that both of your children have their records me b zola Apr 2015 #44

Maybe I missed something. meaculpa2011 Apr 2015 #29

When an adoption happens the state seals the original birth certificate and replaces it with StevieM Apr 2015 #34

Thanks for the info about the amended certificate. ManiacJoe Apr 2015 #48

Yes, I am in reunion with both sides of my natural family me b zola Apr 2015 #39

Agreed. meaculpa2011 Apr 2015 #46

Happy Birthday, Me B Zola. I actually had thought of you a couple days ago. There was an article StevieM Apr 2015 #31

Know the Laws!!!!! citizen blues Apr 2015 #33

Exactly. Mothers don't forget. And they never asked to be "protected" from their children. StevieM Apr 2015 #36

thank you barbtries Apr 2015 #50

That's a powerful story. Thanks for sharing. Faryn Balyncd Apr 2015 #45

My goodness! DawgHouse Apr 2015 #37

Happy Birthday, me b zola beam me up scottie Apr 2015 #47

Your permission was impossible to obtain at the time treestar Apr 2015 #66

The sealing of birth records had nothing to do with a birth mother's privacy. StevieM Apr 2015 #67

I agree the society then gave little choice treestar Apr 2015 #68