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In reply to the discussion: Fellow DU women: what woman in her right mind would "advocate" for a woman who slept with her [View all]underahedgerow
(1,232 posts)and the partnership are far more valuable than indiscretions and the fallibility of being human -- and male.
I become very sad when I see long term, lovely partnerships dissolve over petty issues -- and yes, I think that a momentary dalliance IS petty. I suppose if the other person truly falls in love with someone else, it's time for them to move on. But to split up over that need for a break, to take a breather after some 25 years, well... it's not always the right decision. I think that often people in long term relationships need a gap year, why not?
I have no respect for people who make an effort to seduce someone in a partnership, that's very rude and unethical, and it speaks to their lack of character, immaturity and self-control.
That being said, humans are genuinely often very weak creatures when it comes to sex and alleged attraction.
It's astonishing to see people destroy their lives just for sex. Men risking their lives just for sex (AIDS), people tarnishing their lifelong careers for sex, (clinton). Seriously, risking so much, risking everything one has worked for, for a few moments of pleasure.... it's irrational. People need to learn to control themselves.
Mrs. Clinton made an excellent choice in forgiving her husband. She recognizes that his weakness is not worth throwing away a life-long friendship and partnership. She's not obligated to feel anything about the females with whom he has dallied. And while she's entitled to be critical, but it's not worth thinking about for more than a moment. Petty grudges are pointless.