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Skittles

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13. give your mum a journal, and ask her to detail every complaint she and your step-dad has

Reply to narnian60 (Original post)

Sun Apr 8, 2018, 05:55 PM

Apr 2018

tell her she should also mention anything of which she approves

tell her when you visit you promise to discuss what she has written

right now the fear of unknown and the lack of choice are overwhelming her - try to give her an action, to help her feel some control and dignity

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Finally moving Mom & step-dad to assisted living facility [View all] narnian60 Apr 2018 OP

Good luck. cilla4progress Apr 2018 #1

Just visit a lot and let them know you won't forget them FakeNoose Apr 2018 #2

Try posting in the Elder-Caregivers group..lots of good info there. likesmountains 52 Apr 2018 #3

Thank you. narnian60 Apr 2018 #8

Can they take some personal items with them? Frustratedlady Apr 2018 #4

We kept my mom and dad at their apartment long after my mom applegrove Apr 2018 #5

Good luck. Ohiogal Apr 2018 #6

It's hard, but I try not to personalize what she says. narnian60 Apr 2018 #10

my mom inlaw has been in assisted living for almost a year now questionseverything Apr 2018 #7

"she has no choice" elocs Apr 2018 #9

I guess I needed to expand on the problem. narnian60 Apr 2018 #12

From my experience, it depends on the place Rhiannon12866 Apr 2018 #15

Took her today to see the place and narnian60 Apr 2018 #16

Oh, that's great news! Rhiannon12866 Apr 2018 #17

My parents and mother-in-law liked for me and other family to go to lunch with them in facility wishstar Apr 2018 #11

give your mum a journal, and ask her to detail every complaint she and your step-dad has Skittles Apr 2018 #13

My grandma was a Wild West bag lady. hunter Apr 2018 #14