Does anyone have a personal problem to share?

[laundry_queen]

61. I'll have a quick (lol) vent but nothing horrible

just stressful.

I'm a f/t student and single mom of 4. When I first split w/my ex, I lived with my parents because they wanted me too. I picked up my life and moved 6 hours away to my parent's place. Then a few months later they changed their mind and kicked us out (and it wasn't my fault, I was their maid, I kept the kids quiet, clean, etc and my parents had a vacation home to escape to every weekend - they just decided they changed their mind about having us there). So I was renting at about $400 MORE per month than a mortgage would clost, in a place I didn't really want to live (b/c I promised my kids I wouldn't switch them schools again). After 2 years, my parents finally agreed to help me buy a place (they had promised when I moved in with them they would help me buy a place, then backed out. They had also promised to pay my tuition and then backed out. I pay it myself now) so I bought a duplex that is being built currently. Of course, it is behind schedule. I asked my landlord if I could extend my lease until my duplex was done and he refused because he said he wanted to sell the house and if my duplex was finished in December or January, he'd be stuck with the house on the market in a slow time.

So for the last few months I've been keep the house spotless so my landlord could show it every weekend. It severely disrupted our lives as I had to pack up 4 kids every time the realtor wanted to show the house. Finally I decided I had enough and told him I'd be leaving on Oct. 31 when my lease was up. He begged me to stay another couple of months, as the house hadn't even had an offer (he's asking some ridiculous price) but I told him I didn't want to be moving on Dec 31 and I have no idea when my duplex will be done (could be 1 month, could be 4 months). Sure as shit, as soon as I announced I was definitely moving out (and in with my parents - god help me) he decided he was going to keep renting it after all. So then as I was packing (and going to school, and keeping the place clean and taking care of 4 kids) he was showing it to renters. He finally found a renter, but this person is so high maintenance. First she tried to get me to sign a (homemade, misspelled) document saying that I promised to vacate the premises. Um, no. Not signing anything. Then, she's seen the place twice already, but wanted me out so she could see it again. Um, no I told my landlord. I'm sick, I'm packing, the house is a mess.

So then I start getting these texts from him all week. "She (new renter) wants to know who your power company is." "She wants to know when garbage day is." "She wants to know how to set up her gas bill." "She wants to know what the meter number is." "She wants you to call Canada post to put her name on the address." "She wants to know if you could call the internet company and put it in her name." WTF has this person never moved before? Why the fuck is this my problem? He never helped ME out when I moved in, I called around and got everything set up myself and found out all the info on my own, why can't this person? It's not like the info is some fucking secret. I sent a snarky text back, "Tell her that I'm too busy moving myself and my 4 kids, I don't have time to move her too."

Of course, through all of this, I'm dealing with my parents helping me move. My parents are narcissists. Seriously, last time we lived with them my then-7 yo needed therapy and the child psychologist labeled my parents (and ex) with this as a possibility because of the behavior patterns. I now know how to set boundaries (didn't have a clue last time) so things are better, but I get to listen to them complain about everything I do, own, how I clean etc when they are helping me. I rented an expensive bin to store my stuff so my parents don't complain about their house being cluttered, but I told my mom I was going to bring stuff I didn't want to pack, like liquids, aerosol cans (cleaners, bathroom products etc) and she freaked out about 'clutter'. Geez. The next few months are going to SUCK ASS. I'm sure it will be worth it to own my own home (MY home, not a home w/my ex) and my monthly payments will be less, but I just hope I can pull through the next little while.

Anyhow, I am sure your issues are larger than mine. Hugs to you, I hope things look up soon.