I finally twigged why people say outrageous things when angry [View all]

[Cronus Protagonist]

I don't have an anger bone in my body. Spock was my admired authority figure when I was growing up. I simply see no need for anger. It's destructive. It's a precursor to violence. And it's totally irrational.

So how do I deal with my relationships when the other gets angry? I am usually bewildered. The other makes up total fabrication, escalating them to ridiculous heights... "We live in a pig sty", "You never lift a finger to help", "What's the point in living then?", "Fuck you and your mother, you asshole", and so on. Meanwhile, I'm always calm, rational and I ask questions to try to ascertain what the problem *really* is, and I never find that out.

However, today I twigged on what's going on. They say outrageous things to try to get me to be as or more angry than they are! It was a bombshell to me! So today I faked anger, ranted and raved a bit, made up some bullshit and hit them with it, stomped around like a little child and generally huffed and puffed like I was really angry. And it worked! hahahaha!

They're really just trying to make me angry and it makes them angrier when I don't get angry. So now I have the solution! Fake anger!

It's sad to me for this to be the situation. I wish it were not so and everyone could live their lives anger free, like me. But many things about human social and personal interactions are foreign to me and this is one that's taken over 50 years for me to learn. So they just want me to be angry too. Damn. What a revelation! :^)



(I often feel like Sheldon Cooper, without the obsessive compulsiveness, of course)