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In reply to the discussion: My husband died last night. [View all]gwheezie
(3,580 posts)I wrote about him of course for myself for my own grief but also I thought damn it there are so many people that will never know what a special person he was and I just wanted a few more people to know about him. It makes me feel better.
Today I finalized the cremation arrangement, it reminded me of his request to cremate him naked. He told me a few weeks ago "for gods sake don't let them talk you into dressing me, it's stupid to dress up a dead guy"
I had to identify is body, it's a law in Virginia before cremation, that was ok. A little hard to do. It hit me hard that it wasn't him anymore. That part, the him part was gone. I hope it was all he wanted it to be when he left this world.
My friend and I had lunch at her farm afterwards, we had margaritas and sat overlooking her pond and horses on a lovely day. He would have wanted to go riding on a day like today. One of the kids came over the day before he died and rode his horse, I watched them go off in the distance through a field and out of sight over a hill. I told him about it, how happy his horse was to be groomed and fussed over, she was his baby and had been neglected for a few months while he was feeling sicker and sicker.
For the last few days he was seeing people in his room, I asked him if he knew any of them and he said no, never saw them before. He said there was one guy there all the time named Harold, he had no idea who he was. He'd say to me Ï Know you think I'm hallucinating but that guy over there talks to me sometimes. It didn't frighten him, he was more amazed than anything.