I fell off the wagon

[hollysmom]

3. I was married 7 years when my ex went to AA.

When he worked the meetings, it was a very happy time of our lives. It took him a year to get sober to stick, many falls off the wagon,. many falls off the wagon before joining AA for years and years. The meetings, the sponsors and sponsoring someone himself all really helped.

I am not even going to say it was just the meetings that helped, it was being able to be open and honest and not hide things that seemed to help him. Not having to be ashamed or alone for a change. I couldn't help because I did not have a drinking problem, I could only be used as an excuse, to blame for his drinking. The people in AA/alanon helped me as well, helped understand. having a friend/family go helps as well.

Funny story. My ex was afraid to go to a meeting, he did not know what to expect, he had strong shame. so, after spending a night watching "lost weekend" and talking a lot, I told him I would go to a meeting with him, he can bring me as the alcoholic, and he would get to see what they do there. Needless to say, the second we walked in, they separated us and then told me to go home. I was in a closed meeting and no way would a sober person mistake me for the alcoholic, like they are not stupid. His new sponsor brought him home and became a great friend. we used to go out together with his wife to dinner and to movies. It might sound scary, but it really isn't.

Take care of yourself tonight.