Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

gibraltar72

(7,503 posts)
17. Not an addict but
Sat Feb 24, 2018, 02:05 PM
Feb 2018

I served on board of a halfway house addiction facility for over 20 years including chairman of board. I was always amazed how far some people would go to keep from admitting they had a problem. One case really hit home. My wife was a manager of a department in a large store One of her female employees was married to an abusive drunk. He had been in trouble many times but the judge grew weary and got tough. The next day my wife came home from work just steaming. She said her employee had torn into her and asked how I could serve on such a horrible board who didn't help people. I of course asked my wife what was going on. Her employee told her we charged so much her poor husband couldn't afford to come to our house and had to sit in jail. Real story judge told him go to jail or to our facility. The court paid for him to go but he told his wife it cost over a thousand dollars a month which they couldn't afford. Truth being he lied to his wife and himself rather that face the fact he was an alcoholic and needed help.

I used to be a drunk... [View all] Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 OP
Thanks! irisblue Feb 2018 #1
Great post, and thank you for cilla4progress Feb 2018 #2
Well said. Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #4
I buried my best friend at 45 SCantiGOP Feb 2018 #3
"...even though I really don't think there was anything I could have done that would have worked." Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #5
The line between fear and rage is very thin - fear leads to rage. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2018 #6
For me, rage is fear. Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #9
So cool. cilla4progress Feb 2018 #13
Yep. Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #15
There is a big difference between what I see in myself and what I see in others. JayhawkSD Feb 2018 #7
We will have to agree to disagree, my friend. (N/T). Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #8
thanks old timer Backwoodsrider Feb 2018 #11
Yes to some of us who has been through it we can see addictive behaviors galore in politics Backwoodsrider Feb 2018 #10
"Every day on the news Trump helps me see my character defects in another person" Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2018 #12
I'm afraid they will turn on us - cilla4progress Feb 2018 #14
It's hard for me, sometimes, to not take trumpers inventory. Woman in the Mirror. irisblue Feb 2018 #16
Not an addict but gibraltar72 Feb 2018 #17
Ah geez🤦‍♀️ irisblue Feb 2018 #18
"...a growing awareness something was terribly wrong..." Iggo Mar 2018 #19
Yep. He is also a "higher power" of sorts to them JDC Mar 2018 #20
I've heard people in the program refer to non-alcoholics as "normies," as in normal people. Comatose Sphagetti Mar 2018 #21
IME Many people who don't go to any meetings really raccoon Jul 2018 #23
One of the most important lessons of the meetings...is ..acceptance... Stuart G May 2018 #22
Latest Discussions»Support Forums»Addiction & Recovery»I used to be a drunk...»Reply #17