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guillaumeb

(42,641 posts) Thu Mar 1, 2018, 12:14 PM Mar 2018

When your child resigns from Mormonism [View all]

From the article:

When my daughter stopped going to the LDS Church, she was 13. It was a long, complicated battle.....

She didn’t believe in the church anymore. She’d tried to go to her friend’s church for a few weeks, but she just couldn’t. She didn’t believe in God. She was an atheist.....

....... your children just keep telling you more and more things you can’t tell them to do. They are who they are and they let you know in small and big ways every moment that you have not created a new version of yourself. They don’t exist in order for you to redo your own life and get things right.
Yes, it is a rejection. But it is also a new creation. Her life. Her world. Her terms. And my job is to embrace all of those parts of her, even this one that is difficult.

To read more:

https://religionnews.com/2018/02/27/when-your-child-resigns-from-mormonism/

Speaking as a parent, I understand the author's feelings and agree with the conclusion that our role as parents is partly a custodial one, but only until the child is grown enough to make decisions. And children are not copies of us, they are others. We must respect them and their decisions.

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When your child resigns from Mormonism [View all] guillaumeb Mar 2018 OP

The notion that our children are merely brainwashed automatons... yallerdawg Mar 2018 #1

Yes indeed this child grew up and rejected Voltaire2 Mar 2018 #2

OR you never received the gift of faith. yallerdawg Mar 2018 #4

Or they received the gift of doubt marylandblue Mar 2018 #13

I know you are only half serious edhopper Mar 2018 #14

And if I reframed your response, guillaumeb Mar 2018 #8

Which explains the vast number of new christians in every generation of islamic countries AtheistCrusader Mar 2018 #22

"only until the child is grown enough to make decisions" trotsky Mar 2018 #3

What courtesy? guillaumeb Mar 2018 #9

"All socialization is indoctrination." trotsky Mar 2018 #12

Socialization is the learning of group norms. guillaumeb Mar 2018 #16

They are different words with different meanings. trotsky Mar 2018 #17

Semiotics is an interesting field. guillaumeb Mar 2018 #19

But not nearly as interesting as observing hypocrisy and duplicity in action. trotsky Mar 2018 #20

So judgmental. guillaumeb Mar 2018 #21

Just observant. trotsky Mar 2018 #27

It takes even keener power of observation to recognize when one is at fault. guillaumeb Mar 2018 #28

Are you blaming others for your behavior? trotsky Mar 2018 #29

Not at all. guillaumeb Mar 2018 #30

Oh but of course. trotsky Mar 2018 #31

Allow me to give a clue: guillaumeb Mar 2018 #32

Oh yeah, that's a phrase from YOUR religion. trotsky Mar 2018 #33

And I will continue to point out hypocrisy also. guillaumeb Mar 2018 #34

One doesn't have to be perfect to point out hypocrisy. trotsky Mar 2018 #35

I am excusing nothing. Simply making an observation. eom guillaumeb Mar 2018 #36

Uh huh. trotsky Mar 2018 #37

Please don't abuse the word 'guide'. AtheistCrusader Mar 2018 #23

PLease do not abuse the word abuse. guillaumeb Mar 2018 #24

If you think it's not abuse, you should at least first obtain consent and a safe word. AtheistCrusader Mar 2018 #26

My parents were Catholic and Presbyterian. redstatebluegirl Mar 2018 #5

Forcing kids to believe certain ways Mariana Mar 2018 #7

Well said. Agreed. eom guillaumeb Mar 2018 #10

So is 13 cool with you? Cartoonist Mar 2018 #6

I would not set any number in stone. guillaumeb Mar 2018 #11

I disagree with her conclusions. Act_of_Reparation Mar 2018 #15

I have a few friends who are atheists. guillaumeb Mar 2018 #18

Oh good. You still can't remember what agnostic and athiest mean. AtheistCrusader Mar 2018 #25