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onager

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18. I had a very similar background.
Sat Dec 29, 2012, 04:29 PM
Dec 2012

Raised SoB (Southern Baptist) at about the same time as you. Also in the Deep South.

Generally, I think our local church was sort of SoB Lite or something. Sunday School, Sunday service, done. We lived so far out in the country that church was virtually the only social outlet.

I sure had it a lot easier than some of my cousins, who belonged to the Fire-Baptized Pentecostal Holiness church. I got dragged to some of their services as a kid and thought those people were nuts, compared to us boring Baptists. Screaming gibberish (i.e., talking in tongues), falling in the floor, running around the church yelling when they "got in the Spirit," etc. And their damn Sunday services gave me a good working definition of "eternity."

But when I was 8 or 9 years old, our church hosted a fire-breathing "Special Revival" preacher. He hammered hard on the idea that anyone could die AT ANY SECOND. If unbaptized, you would go straight to Hell where you could see your former family members laughing at you from Heaven.

That scared me so much that I answered the Altar Call that very night and got baptized the next week.

Like you, all these years later I'm still sort of pissed off that I fell for that sleazy sales pitch. But as you note, once a person "accepted the Lord," there was massive positive reinforcement from relatives, neighbors, etc. And we were just kids, after all.

I've been a happy atheist for many years now. I just spent 2 weeks at home for the holidays and see evidence that things are actually changing back there. Reading the local newspaper, I saw several letters to the editor from "out" atheists in that area. Which amazed me.

One letter from a woman said (from memory): "I never had real peace of mind until I got rid of religion and became an atheist."

Atheist Amen, sister!

I thought at times that if I was wrong, and there really was a Hell, I was doomed ... Auggie Dec 2012 #1
I grew up in a fairly liberal Lutheran church. trotsky Dec 2012 #2
I still to this day remember it as my childhood deep dark secret from everybody iwillalwayswonderwhy Dec 2012 #3
"I thought something was really really wrong with me..." FiveGoodMen Dec 2012 #4
Try growing up Irish Catholic, it's worse Warpy Dec 2012 #5
That's bad, and I'm not trying to out-bad you iwillalwayswonderwhy Dec 2012 #6
"Go sell all that you have and give the money to the poor. Then come follow me" -- Who said that? FiveGoodMen Dec 2012 #7
That's when I fled the south. Yee haw, indeed Warpy Dec 2012 #9
I had a kinda stupid luck as a kid YankeyMCC Dec 2012 #8
That was my experience, too. meeshrox Dec 2012 #10
I guess that I was lucky as a child. Curmudgeoness Dec 2012 #11
I was never baptized but I did go through most of the same things and I still get mad at some of it. ScottLand Dec 2012 #12
Welcome! OriginalGeek Dec 2012 #13
This is why I am never surprised when people vote against their own self-interests iwillalwayswonderwhy Dec 2012 #14
I think their gullibility is greatly developed and enhanced in church FiveGoodMen Dec 2012 #15
Yep. OriginalGeek Dec 2012 #17
I came upon my atheism much more recently Gore1FL Dec 2012 #16
I had a very similar background. onager Dec 2012 #18
What? No Sunday night service? iwillalwayswonderwhy Dec 2012 #19
Most of those were available... onager Dec 2012 #20
Yes, I was a G.A. (girl' s auxiliary) and I forgot Training Union iwillalwayswonderwhy Dec 2012 #21
Guilt and the fear of being ostracized and shunned.... AlbertCat Jan 2013 #22
Excellent discussion! truegrit44 Jan 2013 #23
I was raised Methodist... awoke_in_2003 Jan 2013 #24
lol, My methodist cousins always told the best Baptist jokes OriginalGeek Jan 2013 #27
I was raised Presbyterian in a liberal church marlakay Jan 2013 #25
You are not alone intaglio Jan 2013 #26
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