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Bereavement

DeadLetterOffice

(1,352 posts)

4. Take your cue from your husband, since they're his family

Reply to murielm99 (Original post)

Tue Aug 25, 2015, 09:42 AM

Aug 2015

When he's had enough, you get to have had enough too. If he keeps his cool, you gotta grin and bear it.

Meanwhile, every time you want to smack someone, crunch an ice cube. Your teeth may hurt by the end of the event, but your knuckles won't.

Also, it may help to remember that if you haven't seen these people in years, you probably won't have to again for even more years. One night? You got this.

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Any thoughts on how to keep it civil? [View all] murielm99 Aug 2015 OP

try to give them the benefit of the doubt. KMOD Aug 2015 #1

"Thank you for caring about him, we can't talk about it, but thank you for uppityperson Aug 2015 #2

Thank you. n/t murielm99 Aug 2015 #3

Take your cue from your husband, since they're his family DeadLetterOffice Aug 2015 #4

Someone in husband's family made the decision to reach out. No Vested Interest Aug 2015 #5

Thanks to you and everyone else. murielm99 Aug 2015 #6

Family is Family. Not a lot choice in the matter. No Vested Interest Aug 2015 #7

We are leaving in about thirty minutes. murielm99 Aug 2015 #8

Enjoy. No Vested Interest Aug 2015 #9

If I speak to anyone on DU about it, murielm99 Aug 2015 #10

My son coached me on how to converse with my long estranged uber winger uncle. mahina Aug 2015 #11

I'd be like are you going to invite us out for a day out on the river/lake/etc on it? 47of74 Sep 2015 #12

Not I! mahina Sep 2015 #13

He bought this used houseboat. 47of74 Sep 2015 #14

That reminds me of the definition of a boat mahina Sep 2015 #15

Yeah that's about it. 47of74 Sep 2015 #16