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Bereavement
In reply to the discussion: Not sure where to post this ... my mom just died. [View all]Hekate
(90,686 posts)27. I'm so very sorry for your loss...
I missed being with my Mom too. I got on the first train I could and headed out with a "stupid phone" that I had been given the wrong charger for. I didn't know she died while I was travelling until I got there because the phone was not on. I couldn't call back home from the motel my brother dumped me at because the stupid phone was dead.
It's a horrible feeling -- and it is not your fault any more than it was mine. Yes, you will live with it -- until, someday, you find the wound healing over. You find you forgive yourself, and your Mom for leaving you, and your brother (or whoever) for behaving badly in grief.
Try to be gentle with yourself.
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Condolences and no matter what happens ,it seems there's usually some form of guilt comes with loss
lunasun
May 2018
#2
My heart hurts for you. And I'm sure she knows you were there in spirit if not in body.
raven mad
May 2018
#7
I am so sorry! I have regrets about my parents, too, but in time I have
GreenPartyVoter
May 2018
#30
Reaching out to you with white light and gentle, but solid support. Be kind to yourself.
Guilded Lilly
May 2018
#33
Im so sorry for your loss. I'm sure your mom wouldn't want you to beat yourself up
lunamagica
May 2018
#39